I don’t know if anyone told you, but you can choose differently. This is not me giving you permission to do it, although if that’s what you need, then take it as you will. This is me informing you to keep an open mind to whatever your situation is and look for other options. The answers may be unconventional, but worth it.

We often get tangled up in situations and wonder how we got involved in the first place. It’s a combination of things. It could be Karma, a past life thing playing out, an ancestor wound, or a soul contract still in effect. It could be lots of things, the point is that many factors may drive us toward a certain circumstance. The thing to understand about it is that we don’t have to stay there. We can make other choices. We can extricate ourselves from things we don’t want to be involved in.

This is not necessarily easy or fast, but it can be done if we are willing to do the required work. Life is short. I can’t speak for everyone, but I would prefer to spend my life doing things I want to do with the people I prefer to spend my time with. Anything else is not contributing to my happiness. I’m at the point where if something doesn’t add to my happiness, it’s gone. There are exceptions, but I consciously choose what will be an exception and what isn’t. I don’t have a default setting where everything settles into a pattern that I just live with or get used to.

What or who are you willing to be entangled? Which situations are acceptable? Which are not, and what can you do to disengage from it? We often get caught up in someone else’s issues. Do you want to be involved in that? If you do, why? A friend complains that her life is not hers, that she never has time for herself, and that people are always bothering her. We’ve had many conversations about her phone going off at all hours of the day and night and how she never sleeps well. I’ve suggested she put her phone on silent while she sleeps or on Do Not Disturb. She won’t do it. I’ve suggested that she tell her people not to call or send her texts after a certain time since most of what comes to her is not crucial or time-sensitive. She refuses to do that, as well. By not setting reasonable limits on her time, she’s choosing those circumstances and then complains about getting exactly what she allows. I’m done making suggestions for improvement. I suppose she is one of those people who has to be in the middle of everything. That’s fine. Whenever she complains about not having time for herself, I change the subject.

Think about your own entanglements. Are they worth your effort? Are you getting something out of it by being in that situation? Is what you’re receiving from that situation for your highest good, or is it feeding some fear, insecurity, or perceived lack you have? Are you constantly surrounded by drama? If so, you have to remember that if you have drama everywhere you go, the center of the drama is always you. Step out of the circle of drama and be conscious of the people, places, and things with which you are choosing to be willingly entangled.