This is an interesting question to contemplate in relation to metaphysical gifts. For those who want to access their gifts, one of the first things to think about is, what is my gift? What interests me? Our tendency is to want it all and want it now. It doesn’t work that way. For me, it started with Reiki training. From there, my gifts got stronger as I now had a framework to use them. I could “see” the chakras and the organs of the body and see how energy flowed or didn’t flow as well. I could also see if ancestors or guides showed up to assist in the healing session. I could also see if there were any entities attached to the person that worked to prevent healing.

Everyone is different and we get to choose what we want to use. I have the ability to talk to the dead, do I? Not usually. Why? I don’t find it interesting. I primarily use my ability to help spirits who are stuck to move on. That’s what interests me. I don’t do a lot of psychic readings except when I participate in psychic fairs because while it’s fine, it tends to be monotonous. People ask the same questions about money or love. Not that those things aren’t important, they are, but answering that question day after day would become a job. The last thing I want is for something I love so much to become a J.O.B. I have a friend who is more than happy to spend her day telling people whether or not the energy is good for getting a new job. If they should wait a little longer before moving forward, or if the person they are dating is really interested in building something real. It’s part of her comfort zone, and she’s good at it.

To figure out what you’re supposed to do with your gifts depends on where your interest lies and what you want to do with it. The truth is, you don’t have to do anything with it. I’ve met many gifted people who decided to accept it and then ignore it. Some people, like myself, don’t get to ignore it. Every time I walk away from helping people, something happens with someone I care about, and I’m right back in it. If that is the case with you, the goal is to find a way to integrate it with the life you want to have.

Not everyone needs to know what you can do. Often, it’s better if no one knows. Some would consider this hiding who you are. I don’t, and here’s why. Who you are and what you can do is no one’s business. As long as you acknowledge who you are and what you can do, that is all that is required. To me, it’s not important that others accept you. It’s more important that you accept yourself. When others can’t accept you, it’s not a reflection of you. It’s a reflection of them. Therefore, share what you want with who you want, and the rest of the world can mind their own business. Despite what social media encourages, we don’t need to share every aspect of our lives with every other person on the planet. Most of us don’t care what another person is doing with their lives, and if someone cares that much about what you’re doing, that’s an indication of a perceived lack in their lives that has nothing to do with you. I say save yourself the hassle and the negativity. Be you, be happy, but be selective.

You get to decide what you do with your gifts. Do you want to ignore it, get it under control, get stronger? Do you want to use it for the benefit of yourself or others and in what way? I advocate for doing your best to be in service to others, and the universe tends to smile on that sort of thing and helps to send us good things, but do whatever floats your boat. Most of us don’t know what we were “meant” to do. We grow into it or stumble into it, whatever the case may be. We are always in the process of becoming our next selves. It’s why I tell my students to work on what they have instead of grasping for new skills. Abilities build on other abilities. Get the hang of one and then you realize that something else developed in the meantime. The best-case scenario for developing gifts is to focus on what is already calling you.