This is a question that a lot of people ask. Not just in the metaphysical realm but in all things. We always wonder if we are continuing to grow or if we’ve grown stagnant and not noticed. I can’t speak for other people, but I can tell you what I’ve observed over the years of working with other healers as well as walking my own path. As I write this, many things are changing for me. Metaphysical doors are opening as physical ones are closing. I’m gaining new friends as old ones are falling away. A friend of mine told me that we were caught in the cycle of Uranus and that the strength of the planet was that it could tear down all our institutions. The very framework of our lives. In other words, she said we were living in the real-life version of the tower card in the tarot. I’ve never held much store by astrology, not because I don’t believe it. It’s due to it being very complicated, with many variables to consider. In other words, there’s a lot of information to sift through to get a simple answer. I am an Aries. I have no time for that.

However, I do believe that the tower card coming to life is accurate. At least, it has been for me over the last few years, and it’s not over yet. Uncertainty has always been anathema to me. I hate it. Unfortunately, I’ve been dodging the wrenches the universe has been sending me and, by my estimation, not doing very well with it. I wasn’t that great at dodgeball as a kid. As an adult, my skill hasn’t improved. I was much better at Red Rover. I could clothesline the other kids like nobody’s business. Ah, good times, but I digress.

Progress is something that is sometimes made in big leaps but also in tiny steps. More often than not, they are in the little things. The small adjustments we make often turn out to make a big difference. When I was part of a Reiki share, some of the other people there hadn’t been doing healing work as long as I had. When they were having trouble trying to sense something, I would make a suggestion as to what to focus on or where to put their hands. It was when I explained something that their eyes would widen, and after they did what I said then, their mouths would drop open in amazement that a small adjustment could make a difference. It was then that I would see how each of them improved, learning not only from me but from each other.

Yes, I have been a healer for a while, and I’ve been around the block a few times, but I don’t consider myself the end all, be all regarding knowledge about healing. I’m constantly learning new things and new ways of looking at old things. I’ve met healers that process energy in ways I never imagined, but it works, and that’s what matters. As I’ve taught them things, they have also taught me. I’ve watched healers take small steps and use them to build confidence to take on the greater challenge of trusting themselves.

As healers and human beings, the hardest thing we have to do is learn to trust ourselves. We might have had years of others telling us we were too stupid or not good enough or whatever. It’s up to us to decide whether we believe them or not.

True progress comes with confidence. Confidence is built on trust. That doesn’t mean we don’t make mistakes. I have made some whoppers, that’s for sure, but things change. They always do, especially with this “living the tower card” I seem to be doing at the moment. Right now, my circumstances are not fun. At this time next year, I will look back on it and hopefully have a different perspective of it, a more positive one, because right now, it sucks.

That is how I define the progress I’ve made as a healer and as a person. Can I look back at something and see a different version of it? If I can’t, that means I’m stuck, and I need to work on that in whatever way I can to let go of that energy for good. Strangely, that has been the bulk of what I have been doing over the past few years, and I have to say that I honestly feel different about some things that bothered me in the past. I also look at situations differently, and boundaries that I was a little wishy-washy about before have now become rock solid. I have to say that I know myself better now than I ever have before, good things and bad things and everything in between. What I know about myself now that I didn’t know before is that nothing and no one can stand in the way of my good. Once you acknowledge that, it can be true for you as well.

The universe is letting me know that the changes I’m making need to be radical. I have to get rid of the old for the new to have space. That’s true for everyone, and that is the marker of growth, spiritual or otherwise. Are you still doing things the way you’ve always done them? Does it still work for you, or do you feel the need to try something different? Investigate those inclinations. It’s a sign that you might be feeling blocked or stuck in a rut. Once you look into it, try a few things that interest you and see if they work. If they don’t try something else or if you find that what you had actually does fulfill what you need, then be content with it until something else catches your eye. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

If you feel the need for spiritual expansion, read an article, listen to a podcast, or watch a YouTube video. There are hundreds of topics to explore. To determine if you’re spiritually growing, ask yourself what you’ve learned recently. Have you practiced it, or do you want to learn more about it from someone more experienced? Have you noticed a new psychic ability has emerged, and you want to get some traction with it? To grow means continuing to move forward, develop, mature, and gain wisdom and perspective. It also means being confident and trusting yourself enough to share what you know with someone who you believe might benefit from the knowledge you’ve gained.

The act of sharing what you know is also growth. It goes to knowing that you’ve contributed to your circle of friends, your community, and the world at large. You never know. That small piece of information you share has the capacity to change someone’s life. That is growth on an exponential scale. So keep growing spiritually as fast or as slow as you please, it’s not a race, and there’s no need to rush. In the meantime, send me good thoughts as I hang on for dear life as I star in my very own episode of “The Tower Card – Live.”