Welcome to Hands on Fire. I’m Kai, your host, and this is an attempt at making sense of metaphysics and real-life at the same time. It’s a daunting task, I know, but I’m going to take a crack at it anyway.

The topic for today is one that I’ve been contemplating for some time, and that is WTF is up with the energy right now. I am an energy healer, specifically a Reiki Master, among other things that I will probably discuss later. For anyone who is sensitive to energy has figured out, the whole f-n world is going crazy right now. It seems like things calm down for a minute then some other bizarre thing happens.

Most of the mystics right now are saying that we are in the next step in the process of ascension and what we’re experiencing are growing pains. From watching the news, I think it’s safe to assume that most of us are struggling to stay afloat while others of us are drowning in the energy.

What are we supposed to do about that? I would say nothing. Cold-hearted, I know, but there’s a method to my madness. Here is my thought process: every person has to live their lives according to their own choices. Even when we know they are making the worse possible choice, from their perspective, it is the best one.

We can’t live their lives for them, and most of the time, we don’t have to live with the consequences unless we live in the same house with them, and by God, they better fricken think about it before the whole house ends up in chaos. Sorry, I digress.

We like to think that the people we live with, who claim to love us, actually do care about us and won’t make decisions that are detrimental to us. The fact is that sometimes they do make ruinous decisions, and then we have to find a way to cope. How we choose to do that is our choice, not theirs.

That’s the big thing here, they get to choose what they do, and we get to choose what we do. Where does energy fit in with all of this in real-life practical terms? I could go into how energy affects everything we think, say, or do, but we already know that. On some level, everyone is aware that how you think, act, or speak about something has an effect on another person or a situation. The point is to become more conscious of the choices we’re making.

Here’s an example. Once upon a time, I had a sucky boyfriend. I couldn’t seem to break up with him. Nothing was really wrong, but nothing was really right either. I mean, he was kind of a douchebag, but since I didn’t see him that often, it didn’t bother me much. We were getting together, ignoring one another for a few weeks, and then starting up again. At some point, I realized something important, and it’s a lesson that I have carried with me since then. What I learned was that I was happier without him.

From then on, every relationship I have with people is weighed against that very simple principle. If I was happier with the person in my life, they stayed. If I wasn’t, it was time to move on. I’m a person that doesn’t have many close friends. Most of the time, I can count them on one hand, but every person I call a friend has to pass that standard. It doesn’t mean I’m out of there if we fight about something trivial. It means that if I find myself wondering if spending time with that person is worth my time, then I have to pull out the measuring stick and decide if the relationship is still making the cut. This is after months or even years of friendship before I take this step, so it’s not done lightly or in haste. 

While I am notorious for having a temper, in my old age, I’m in my 50’s. I’m more level-headed now than I used to be. Metaphysical practice has been a large contributor to that development. Now here I am swinging around to the point. The world is going bat shit, but I don’t have to, and neither do you. Think about what you want to do with your life and decide whether or not this thing you’ve been thinking about will benefit you or hurt you in the end.

Often the best choice is to step back and take a look at something before you make any choice at all, and of course, not making a choice means you’ve made one as well. As far as the choices of others, we can’t do anything about them. We can try to change their minds, but that is often a losing battle and only causes people to dig in further even when they know they’re wrong.

I think the real-life answer to the chaos that is happening in our world today is to be conscious of what we do to help or hinder the situation. Be vigilant about our own choices and the reasons for those choices. Allow kindness to come through us as much as possible, even when we don’t like something or don’t agree. Suspend judgment in regards to the choices of others. 

Hard as hell to do, I know. Especially if you are a person who wants to help people avoid making terrible mistakes. I happen to be one of those people. A former co-worker told me I should be in risk management because I can spot trouble a mile away. When I see someone about to do something, not in their best interest, I want to shake them and tell them not to do it. In the past, I have, and it’s not gotten me anywhere, so it’s one of the lessons I have to learn. I’m better about it, but there are still times when I catch myself falling into the habit.

Let it go. Remember what you can control and what you can’t. In the meantime, be as happy as you can, and as to the rest, F*ck it.